Robert Allen Savage
Author ‘It Ends With Me’
Host: Basima Farhat
Previously Aired On: Tuesday, August 18, 2009 – Listen to the Show!
In Robert’s own words:
“Writing under the pen name Robert Savage, I am a survivor of the worst, believer in the best. I live my life to spread a message, YOU CAN HEAL! Abandoned, adopted, dumped into the system, I spent 23 of my first 27 years institutionalized.
From where I have been to where I am is a journey I share so others can find their own path to healing. I want to expose the truth, however dark it may be. The world needs to protect our children!
Introduction from IT ENDS WITH ME by Robert Allen Savage
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This book is dedicated to all the children, past, present and future, who will be beat by the people they love. The children who will get lost along the way, dropped in the cracks of the system. It is dedicated to the damaged people, who had no choice as children, that need to know, they have a choice now.
Being lost is never easy, finding your way back to sanity is a very long road.
Some never make it back, and end up taking their own life, because the pain of being alive is too great. If you have never been abused, mentally, physically or sexually, I am grateful that you were spared this atrocity. You will never be able to relate to a person that has, because every abused person lives in their own hell. Somehow, I hope this may help you understand even a little, the deep torment, that we the abused, have to live with, and fight everyday to overcome.
My story as bad as it is, is a lot better than others. I know this, because I have been around the places we are forced to dwell all my life. I have heard their stories. Some had it better, some had it worse, but make no mistake. No matter the level of abusiveness, the kind of abuse, or the frequency of it. To that child, it was their very existence, all they knew, and because of the way they were forced to live, they never learned what healthy love is.
As I write this there is a very good possibility, that someone you know is beating their child, or children. Abusers are very private about the fact they beat, belittle, or molest children. You can’t tell an abuser in a crowd, they appear normal in every way. It is only in the privacy of their home, where no one can witness, or in an institution, where a child has no credibility, that they practice their sick, deviant, destructive art.
Abused children grow up, and they get married, and they have children. The fact is, that if they never did anything to heal themselves, to learn a different way, then there is a very real chance, that they too will become an abuser.
I beg of you, if you know someone who was abused, help them heal. If you suspect someone of abuse, don’t sit on the idelines, praying you are wrong. Do whatever you must do, to assure that no child that you meet, has to be beat in the name of love.
I don’t have the words to describe the agony of someone who you love, beating you, or touching you. To have a parent, or counselor, or spouse, yelling at you that you are useless. There are millions who live this reality. Children die everyday from neglect and abuse. It is not something I need statistics to prove. We all know the truth of it, we see it on the news, in the newspaper, and in our lives.
I have no clue if this book will ever be published. I have no idea of knowing if my message will get out there. It is my prayer that it does. I need other people who have been abused to know, they are not alone. That there are others who are just as damaged as them, that others know their pain, their fears, and the inner torment we all share. I need to shout it loud
and clear!
There is a way to heal! There is a way to get beyond your past. There is HOPE!
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I’ve read Allen’s book, and think it was very good!…, An excellent account of his life. Knowing “Savage” as i do.., i believe he has been truthful in his memories….., YOU GO SAVAGE!!!
Comment by Sherry Combs | July 28, 2009
I’ve just started reading this book, and it has brought back so many memories of my own life. The book is riveting, a must read!You to can heal…so can I. This book shows the way to do that. Hats off to you Mr. Robert Allen Savage! I will be back with a final comment when I am all done with the book. However, in the meantime…it is sooooooo refreshing to see someone write the raw truth, no matter how bad it hurt.
Comment by Christine` | July 29, 2009
Hey Allen, read the into to your book, sound very profound and presents the cold hard facts of what this disease can do to us left untreated. Thank you for insight, your experience, strength and hope. I need to be constantly reminded of what I can go back to. I was in that same hell of my own making for a number of years, it all but destroyed me but, today I am free, liberated by the AA 12 steps passed on unconditionally from one recovering alcoholic to another…all that’s asked in return is the willingness to help another alcoholic.
Thanks again Allen, its a pleasure to be witness to your miracle of recovery…God Bless!
Gordy
Comment by Gordy R | July 30, 2009
Hey Allen, just read the intro to your book, sounds very profound, it presents the cold hard facts of what this disease can do to us left untreated. Thank you for insight, your experience, strength and hope. I need to be constantly reminded of what I can go back to. I was in that same hell of my own making for a number of years, it all but destroyed me but, today I am free, liberated by the AA 12 steps passed on unconditionally from one recovering alcoholic to another…all that’s asked in return is the willingness to help another alcoholic.
Thanks again Allen, its a pleasure to be witness to your miracle of recovery…God Bless!
Gordy
Comment by Gordy R | July 30, 2009
That has been an interesting subject and shows there always light that shows the way out of the tunel of torment
Comment by altonemuk1 | August 2, 2009
Finished your book, I wanted to hug you and never let go. What a horrible horrible way to live as a child. I was verbally abused for years,physical abuse was there but at a minimum compared to your life. Being abandoned(even by the ones that hurt you) had to be such a terrifying feeling. That is all the love you knew and it just left you…all alone. You are a true shining example of strength to rise above all that you have. And to be better for your children. You have a loveing wife who supports you and just loves you no matter what. You have climbed that mountain, you have overcome, you have made it possible for others to see that they to can overcome. There is healing and love and understanding out there…if we can only find it in time. Thank you for your honesty and willingness to bare all so maybe even one person can be healed. This book…your life, should be made into a movie. May God bless your heart and your family. It ends with me is a story that must be told so people dont HAVE to do the same thing that was done to them. They can heal and really show love to others and while doing so, receive love back in a most pleasantly surprising way. Much love and happiness to you and your family the rest of your journey! Christine`
Comment by Christine` | August 10, 2009
I have just started reading this book and it has brought back so many memories of my own life. This book is riveting, a must read! You to can heal…so can I. This book shows the way to do that. Hats off to you Mr. Robert Allen Savage! I will be back with a final comment when I am all done with the book. However in the meantime, it is soooooo refreshing to see someone write the raw truth, no matter how bad it hurt.
Christine`
Comment by Christine` | August 11, 2009
Is this the drunk on Paltalk that goes around threatening to kill everyone ? No wonder he was in jail, he deserves to go back.
Comment by Crabby | August 11, 2009
This man has serious psychiatric problem. I can confirm that he has made death threats to me and other Paltalk users. Blaming his problems on his upbringing is only an excuse for his repulsive behavior. I suggest people said money to the people he has abused and not buy his book.
Comment by fhoto | August 11, 2009
I have read Robert’s book and applaud him for his bravery in exposing not only what was done to him by the hands of abusers, but his honesty in sharing how he lived his life to survive. Few would have the guts to expose such honesty.
Comment by Breeze | August 12, 2009
Robert you know how much I support what you are doing here. It is a path I have worked on a long time. It is obvious some of the above comments were made by people who had not read your book, merely a personal agenda. Had they read your book they would know that it is people like them that allow these kinds of nightmares to be perpetuated against children, and that if no one speaks out, it will never end. You are doing a great job breaking the silence, and this should touch everyone who actually reads it, whether they suffered like this or not.
Comment by timewill | August 12, 2009
Wonderful book Robert loved reading every page. It has taken you so much courage to wite this. It was hard to read in parts your truth incredible. As for the low life’s who have abused you they will never understand the pain. Never forget that there a poeple that support you Robert.
Comment by Aussie01 | August 13, 2009
read the book, thought it was trite and whilst a surley harrowing tale it was nothing i hadnt read before in any number of other books like this
Comment by me | August 18, 2009
There was something very special and touching about this show. We’ve had on alot of notable guests on The People Speak ranging from Nobel Laureates such as Archbishop Desmond Tutu to entertainers like Willie Nelson and writers like Noam Chomsky. But this show with Robert Allen Savage had a special feeling. Maybe it was because the guest shared something very deep and personal of himself. Maybe it was because we knew this individual for awhile through online communication and had come to know and love him personally.
It makes me feel good to see someone like Robert empower himself and share his story because it helps not only himself but others as well..which is what The People Speak Radio show is about.
Comment by Producer | August 19, 2009
I have read this book twice and both times I have cried for that poor lost, frightened child.He not only suffered as a child but as a man as well. It can’t have been easy to relive those memories that were so painful. To those people from Paltalk(a political chat room), I suggest you reseve your comments until after you read the book. Robert lived in darkness and pain which came through this book clearly until he found self esteem, acceptance and love.He wrote this book to show people who have been abused that there is hope and a light at the end of the tunnel. He is a wonderful husband and father! You might wonder how I know this. I have the priviledge of being called friend by Robert. He stands head and shoulders above many I have met. I will always stand by him and I will continue to promote this book to all the people I know. Bright Blessings to you and your family, Robert.
Comment by Elle Jordan | August 20, 2009
This guy is completely insane. In the N.A. yahoo chat room he showed me his penis on cam once. His son was sitting next to him. Do not support this man.
Comment by the other grace | December 13, 2009
Not only is he insane, he’s borderline illiterate.
Comment by Me2 | August 7, 2010
Is this Savage goon for real? Must have taken almost a whole hour to push out this slop.
Comment by Elmo Sneedie | August 7, 2010
I am a righter I just couldnt not care less what all you non readers think or say. My freind the publishur is will make me a hole lot of money so youll see one day.
Comment by Robert Savage | August 19, 2010
I read ur stories sometime when I am real sleepy or real drunk. Or real real drunk. They paint pitures in my head. They make my head hurt and I call in sick. I dont like you no more.
Comment by Drucie "Poonie" Tang | September 14, 2010
kewel beans sav…
Comment by RC | September 18, 2010
My posts in Yahoo
“You do know I am hiding in Wyoming from the drug dealers (of my past)”
“I am just a lowlife addict in the eyes of the AA member”
Comment by Robert Savage | October 5, 2010
Has any literate person actually READ this wannabee’s drivel? The works (abortions?) are utterly pathetic.
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Comment by toys | December 20, 2010
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Comment by LeftofCentre | December 29, 2010
To those moronic people from Yahoo or Paltalk chat….you couldn’t survive what Robert went through. It is amazing to me that you could post such drivel when you know nothing about what you are talking about. FYI…Robert is my friend and I can say for certain Robert doesn’t drink! You might take a look at yourselves before you pass judgement!
Comment by Elle Jordan | June 18, 2011
This drooling hack whines and tries to bully everyone in Yahoo chat rooms. Why would anyone read (not to mention, buy) his self-serving trash?
Comment by Ethel McCrack | September 5, 2011
This book makes me want to vomit.. Not because it’s horribly written or the contents make me sick, it’s because it brings back so many memories of my own personal demons I had to grow up and encounter. Physical abuse, sexual abuse, mental abuse, rape… There has to be a higher force pushing you to be able to dig so deep and express so much to help others. God bless you man, this is just the beginning of a new path for you headed in no other than the right direction.
Comment by Annonymous | December 8, 2011